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Here’s How To Tweak Your Hugs To Change People’s Lives
Our world would look a lot better if people did this more.
“Excuse me, is one of you Oren?” a voice asked as I was waiting in a huge line to get my books signed by Brandon Sanderson, last week.
“Yeah?” I turned and saw a friend of mine who just talked to me on Whatsapp a moment ago. I recognized him from his Social Media profiles but that moment was the first time we met in real life. As an instinct, I reached out to hug the guy. He reciprocated with a short hand-over-shoulders hug and we started speaking.
That was just the latest in a train of examples of encounters with people who miss the opportunity to engage in a Deep Hug. It’s sad but understandable. We’re not there yet.
Deep Hugs envelop the other person entirely within your arms and you gently squeeze them into your chest — into your heart. It’s a full-body hug where you don’t stand away from the person when hugging them. You’re truly there, embracing them and the moment.
Deep Hugs take into account one simple truth: When you hug someone, they are the center of your universe for the duration of the hug. You don’t hug while doing something else. You’re entirely in the moment.
